Two ways to correct a person  without hurting their ego. 


Have you ever been engaged in a conversation, where you feel the other person just hit the hammer on the wood instead of the nail? There are ways to put things right without hurting one's ego. 

At times, we tend to make wrong assumptions because of misinformation. 

Yes!  This is how to correct a person or make a person improve over an action without word-hurting. 

Do you mind us going through the reasons why people end up making wrong assumptions?

Just like it spells, the first is assumption. Some people just assume their phrase, fact or idea should be correct, forgetting the fact that nothing is right based on assumption. 

The second is misinformation. Nothing else causes it, more than these two. 


Two easy ways to go about it:


1. Act like you don't understand the phrase or the fact and let the person explain what he or she meant. 

Then, when he or she is done, chip this in. 

A quick example about wrong spelling will help:


JOHN: I am sorry. I can't post the files. I have issues with my Google Disk.


Me: Google Disk? I have not heard about that before! What's it? Tell me. 


(He tries to explain, but you know the right word to use is 'Google Drive'. 

You let him explain and when he is done, you start like this:


ME: Oh! You mean Google Drive. Because I was wondering, I have never heard of Google Disk before.


(Now watch him. He might want to argue. Don't start with him. Just reply with OK to what next he says. What you have done, is put in his head the fact that he might be wrong, without touching his ego. In his spare time, he goes to dig up the real fact, without your help.) 



2. When you want an improvement on someone's character or want him to do better at what he is doing, this is how you go about it:


 ME: I love the way you graded the sheet, but you can do better next time by making it neater. 


Right there, is the mistake. The word 'but' strikes him. He knows you are going for him with a negative and that takes on his ego. 

Use this instead:


ME:  I love the way you graded the sheet and you would do better next time, if you make it neater.


What changed there? The significant change there is the word 'AND'...

So next time, use 'AND' instead of 'BUT'. It preserves the ego better than 'BUT' 



┬ęGodwin Okhuoya