5 Toxic Personalities Successful People Avoid
One of my favorite quotes is by Jim Rohn: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” These words opened my eyes to the fact that the people we hang out with, the people we call friends, they all have an influence on the decisions we make in life, and
therefore the success we have (or don’t have). Unfortunately, not everyone pushes us to be better. Some people stop us from following our dreams or talk us out of
taking a risk, and we don’t always realize that it’s happening.
So it’s important to be aware and consciously choose who we spend time with, to limit spending time with toxic people like these five personalities you should avoid when chasing goals:
1. The Complainers
Complainers are people who are always complaining about how bad their life or job or whatever is. They constantly whine about everything but never do anything about it. Being around a complainer can take a toll on you maybe you begin to join in on the complaints, and before you know
it, you adopt their same way of negative thinking. That pessimism is contagious. Which is why you should think twice before sitting down with a complainer.
2. The Entitled
These are the people who feel like they are entitled to certain things in life, like they do not have to work for anything, that the people around them owe them something. They are also the ones who will try to talk you out of following your
This mindset can be deadly to a person trying to be successful. It blocks your determination and can kill your
motivation in a heartbeat. Know this: You, or anyone else,
are not entitled to anything. If you want the good life, you
have to create it.
3. The Conformers
Conformers are the most popular of all. They are the ones
who conform to the limits set on them. They do not have any
dreams they are chasing after, and they are not doing
something that goes against the status quo. They are simply
living like robots waking up, working 40 hours a week at a
job they hate, going home, sleeping and doing it all over
There are many people who are content with this, and that is
perfectly fine. But a person who is following their dreams
simply cannot conform to the average life. So while working
your full-time job, put in the extra effort on the side to start
building toward something that’s more in line with your
dreams. And eventually you will be able to leave your day
job to pursue your passion full time.
4. The Party Animals
They’re the one who’s planning happy hours five days a
week, the one who lives to go out every night. Sure, the party
animal might be fun, but beware they can distract you from
Don’t get me wrong, you should take time to relax and clear
your head on occasion, but bar hopping is not the solution
and it’s not going to get you the life you’re after. By making
partying a priority, you’re distracting yourself and breaking
focus on your goals things bigger than dollar beers and
half-price apps. In order to grow as a person, you have to
grow up first.
5. The Doubters
Doubters can be downers they will listen to your big
dreams, but they will be the first ones to tell you they don’t
think it is a good idea or not to get your hopes up. They are
the ones who believe you have to “be somebody” in order to
do something extravagant.
As somebody who is chasing their dreams, this can be very
discouraging, so identifying the doubters in your group will
be beneficial to you and your success in the future. Likewise, it is extremely important to keep supportive people around you, people who encourage you and lift your spirits when you are losing motivation.
So, surround yourself with people who will support and encourage you to chase your dreams, through the good and
the bad. Your success depends on it.